Everything happens for a reason… is something I believe. I’m sure you have heard of that saying, but have you really thought about it? I haven’t until today, If you truly believe that then do you really have anything bad happen to you? If you believe everything happens for a reason, I would think that “reason” is a good thing, right? It’s a lesson for us to learn, its something to put us on a new path, its to help us learn how to deal with grief, or loneliness or being afraid or showing us how strong we are, how brave we are or a million other amazing things.
I had to remind myself of that saying recently, the girls and I were put in a sticky situation, one that put fear into me, worry, sleepless nights, what ifs and all that good stuff. That got me nowhere. I shared my situation with friends and it helped but it still stayed with me, the icky feeling, the knot in my stomach. I had to dig deep down and finally I ask myself these 3 questions; What can I learn from this? What is my opportunity? What is my lesson? I answered them and you know what, it gave me hope, it was something for me to hold on to, to help me get though. It turned the negative to a positive.
So how you respond to a situation is key to how happy you live your life. Yes, I am sure you have heard it all before, inspiring quotes on Facebook talking about just that. Well I don’t have a quote to share with you but I do have my experience.
So I went back to past events in my life that were negative to me like my divorce, depression, artist block and loneliness to name a few. I then came up with my lesson, my opportunity, what I learned about myself and others and wow, did that open up my eyes. It amazes me how freer I feel, how happier I feel and all because I looked at things differently. Usually it’s my friends giving me a new way of looking at something, I like to surround myself with people who look at things differently than I do. They give me such great perspective. But this time I was me.
So back to that sticky situation, more people got involved and they were angry, I was then stuck with this thought… I asked a friend “How do you speak your Truth, be true to yourself but not hurt someone in the process.” This sticky situation was still bothering me in a different way now. Now I knew where I stood, what I wanted accomplished, I just don’t want to hurt them, no matter what they have done to me, I don’t see a need to return that. I want to be able to speak my Truth with the upmost integrity, without intention of hurting feelings. The response to my question was… As long as you speak your Truth with loving kindness all will be OK, you can’t take responsibility for the way someone responds to your truth. Relationships are more about teaching us about ourselves. Everyone in your life is a teacher and you are a teacher to others… How cool is that? Yes I have so much to learn about speaking my Truth, being true to myself and learning my lesson/opportunity. I can only hope I get through this learning experience with strength, love and kindness.
So the next time you find yourself in a bad situation, event or anything that feels negative ask yourself these 3 questions; What can you learn from this? What is your opportunity? What is your lesson? And then respond with loving kindness.